There are many great resources available to families who are grieving the loss of their child, including books and therapists who specialize in healing after the loss of a child. The first step is to recognize pregnancy loss as the loss of a child, and then to seek help if you need it.
The New York Times recently ran a beautiful article by Giselle Taylor where she asks an important question; Why don’t we honor and recognize miscarriages in some way? She found the Japanese tradition of placing a Jizo to be helpful in her process. Of course every person is different, and will grieve in different ways, but this article might be helpful to someone. And sharing it brings us closer to talking about the real loss experienced when a family loses a child before birth.
“We knew miscarriage was common. But why wasn’t there anything people did when it happened?”